When life turns upside down and nothing seems to go right, intuitive Lynn A. Robinson offers these five helpful steps to keep you going or turn you around.
What are some steps you can take when life has handed you lemons and you haven’t yet figured out how to make lemonade?
This is a time of change and things need to happen of their own accord. There is little to be gained by trying to speed up the process. If it takes you longer to get where you want to go, there might be a reason for it. It is often hard to figure out the big question, “Why is this happening to me?!” when you’re in the middle of the crisis. Allow for Divine wisdom to play a role in your life.
When you’re out of work, broke and down on your luck, having fun may be at the bottom of your priority list. Nudge it up closer to the top. Come up with a list of inexpensive things you could do to enjoy yourself. There is no virtue in suffering needlessly while you’re going through a difficult time.
Ask for Help and Guidance
If you open up and talk about what you’re experiencing, you may be surprised by how many friends you have who want to help. You don’t have to go through this alone. But if times are really tough or you feel you may be getting seriously depressed, be sure to talk with a counselor.
Be Kind to Yourself
Now is not the time to beat yourself up for any perceived mistakes, or to wallow in “what I should have done.” One of the biggest challenges most experience in the face of failure is knowing how to love ourselves through the process. Keep your heart and mind open. You’ll find that insight and wisdom will come through when you most need them to guide you in the right direction.
Practice Positive Self-Talk
If you’re a pessimist, you’re likely to spend a lot of time with negative self-talk. “I can’t do this.” “Nothing works out for me.” Or, “I have terrible luck,” are all common examples. Whether you’re facing an upcoming interview or giving a speech, pay attention to what you’re telling yourself! It will make a dramatic difference in how you feel.
Make a conscious attempt to shift the focus on any pessimistic thoughts. Try saying things to yourself like, “I know I’ll get through this.” “What could I do today to stay relaxed?” “There are many things I do well and today I’ll stay focused on those.”
I’ll end with a quote from Richard Carlson who wrote the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series of books. “Let go of fear. The universe has an infinite supply of opportunity. There is plenty to go around. You may be surprised to see that something is coming your way right now!”
Adapted from Listen: Trusting Your Inner Voice in Times of Crisis by Lynn A. Robinson.