Esther Perel

Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an acknowledged authority on wartime, post-war, and refugee families; cultural identity; cross-cultural relations; ethnic and religious intermarriage; and erotic intelligence.

Her groundbreaking first book, Mating in Captivity, introduced the inherent conflict in marriage (even successful ones) between emotionally safe but boring intimacy and thrilling but potentially risky eroticism, love, and lust. Ever since, couples therapist Esther Perel has been recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful thinkers about couples, sexuality, and the peculiar paradoxes besetting modern marriage in the Western world.

Featured in many leading publications, she also has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show and the Today Show. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her "the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth." Her critically acclaimed first TED Talk reached 1.5 million viewers in the first month (and has now surpassed 6 million viewers), and she is currently at work on her new book, The State of Affairs: Cheating in the Age of Transparency.

Fluent in nine languages, Perel brings a rich multicultural perspective to her clinical practice and workshops. Her expertise has been sought after by victims of conflict as well as by marriage and family therapists and crisis counselors in training. She has led private and public interventions around the world, and also coaches, consults, and trains organizations and lay and professional audiences.

A frequent keynote speaker, she regularly addresses therapeutic and lay communities at conferences, cross-cultural forums, and workshops. She is also a media commentator and has written numerous articles.

What People are Saying About Esther Perel

“Esther Perel is a fearless writer and thinker who will challenge your views about sex in a radical and fundamental way.”
—Harriet Lerner, PhD, author of Dance of Anger

“Perel says the kind of things that are so contrary to popular wisdom, they actually sound blasphemous—and yet, at precisely the same moment that you’re being shocked by her, you’re also acknowledging the validity of her ideas. Perel’s ideas are...instantly familiar because they resonate deeply. It’s all rather terrifying in its intuitiveness and its pure rightness.”
The Observer

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