In a dreamâ€¦Iâ€™m standing on a beach surrounded by a vast expanse of dark sand as far as I can see. Gulls are squawking in the distance. Iâ€™m looking into my fatherâ€™s watery blue eyes. Heâ€™s animated and young, explaining something to me with more passion than I ever saw in the last years of his life. His brother, my beloved Uncle Pete, who died soon after my dad, is standing beside us, laughing.
Weâ€™re enjoying the vivid openness of the sand and sky and sharing stories, when behind them in the distance, I see a huge tidal wave rolling along the sand toward usâ€”maybe a hundred feet high and towering ominously over the flat landscape. We turn and see another powerful wave rolling directly toward us from the opposite direction. Weâ€™re standing between these two oncoming waves, and in an instant, we realize thereâ€™s nothing we can do.
I grab their hands. â€śHow will we remember?â€ť I ask, staring into their eyes. â€śHow will we find each other again?â€ť
â€śDonâ€™t worry,â€ť answers my Uncle Pete. â€śWe always find each other.â€ť
He shouts something else, but I canâ€™t hear his words through the sound of the crashing waves.
I wake up gasping for breathâ€”still feeling their strong hands wrapped around mineâ€”longing for that moment again, hearing their voices in my head, unable to get back to sleep.
Do we always find each other again? Isnâ€™t that endless longing the tyranny of grief? Or is it simply our limited perspective on time and space? Arenâ€™t we longing for the divine realms, where everything and everyone is luminous and connectedâ€”and aching to return to a home we canâ€™t quite remember?
When our loved ones step into the other realms, they never fully leave us. We abandon themâ€”by not believing theyâ€™re still with us. We stop listening. Our pain blocks them out.
Of course, weâ€™re angry that our loved ones left us alone when we needed them. And weâ€™re angry with the doctor who didnâ€™t diagnose the cancer or the drunk driver on the road that night. But, mostly, weâ€™re angry with ourselves because we might have prevented it if only we hadâ€¦
Yes, thereâ€™s plenty to be angry about in the physical world and life is unfairâ€”until you realize itâ€™s all on purpose. This tragic event is only a brief blip in your soulâ€™s journey. Grief is in your life today to help you. Itâ€™s your divine revealâ€”pushing you to remember who you really are and what you came to do.
Thereâ€™s no teacher as powerful as Divine Mother Griefâ€”the spiritual master of pain and enlightenment. If youâ€™ve chosen Mother Grief as your teacher, youâ€™re clearly a powerful old soul who came here to do great work and to help raise the consciousness of humanity. Youâ€™re here to be a beacon of light for others. And yes, of course youâ€™ll make your living from these gifts and find the love you crave. Itâ€™s all waiting for you to take a step in a new direction.
Remember that you came from a world of grace and light and you will return to it soon enoughâ€”and remember that this earth-bound life is a brief dream. Youâ€™ll see your departed ones dancing in the ethers and soaring through your house like children at play.
This part hereâ€”this physical worldâ€”is the hard part. But you came here on purpose to educate yourself, expand your boundaries, and emerge brilliant and powerful. Youâ€™re not a victimâ€”no matter how tragic your story.
When youâ€™re stuck in your grief, your departed loved one sees you wrapped in a gray cloud of negative energy and longs to take away your pain. Your grief keeps your loved ones from communicating with you. It becomes a wall they canâ€™t break through.
When you once again open your heart and trust your intuition, youâ€™ll hear your departed loved one speaking. Youâ€™ll embrace your spirituality and help others. Youâ€™ll walk away from the bitterness that damages your soul and separates you from love.
Divine Mother Grief will teach you ultimately that your life must have meaning and purpose or thereâ€™s no reason to be here, and only you hold the key to finding that purpose. This book reveals your soulâ€™s mission and illuminates your next steps. But you have to take the first stepâ€¦
If you seek only to stop the pain, your pain increases exponentially. Addictions and distractions pull you off course and make your journey harder. When you trust your higher self instead, you become a beacon of light for the world. And this is why you came here.
This painful moment is your spiritual reawakeningâ€”provided through the courtesy of your higher self. Itâ€™s your moment of grace. Thereâ€™s only one solution now: fulfill your soulâ€™s mission and become the light being you came here to be. Here and now, you get to choose. Everything you need is here. All is forgiven. And youâ€”YOU are divine. This is your moment.
Excerpted from Bridges to Heaven: True Stories of Loved Ones on the Other Side by Sue Frederick.