Nancy Dreyfus

Nancy Dreyfus

Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D. is a fresh and influential voice in rapidly and sensitively transforming human interactions—especially with romantic partners—from defensive or exasperating to friendly and authentic.

She believes the trick isn’t “getting through” to your partner, but rather having a good experience of yourself in your partner’s forcefield and says, “ I believe that we are all just beginning to learn what it means to be human…that we have many different parts, and the trick is to feel these parts without losing our Inner Grown-up.”

A graduate of The Columbia School of Journalism and prize-winning journalist, Nancy turned down a job offer at The New York Times to become a psychotherapist after a series of powerful meditative experiences.  She has been a student of The Pathwork, part of The Waking Down in Mutuality community, and an instructor in the Advaita-based Sedona Method.

Her best-selling repair tool, Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love, was cited by the Utne Reader as a “planetary brainstorm,” listed in the Global Ideas Bank’s 500 Ways to Change the World, and was named “Self-Help Item of the Year” by the Coalition of Visionary Resources.

What People are Saying About Nancy Dreyfus

“As a somatic educator on the impact of trauma on our nervous systems, I see Nancy’s approach as a priceless tool to help couples de-activate from states of hyperarousal, and restore healthy states of social engagement. Her work is an elegant application of cutting-edge neuroscience in very human, poignant, user-friendly terms!”
— Deborah Boyar, PhD, Somatic Experience Practitioner, San Rafael, California

“It’s brilliant. Just about any couple could humanize their relationship using Nancy’s book.”
— Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want

“In a world where personal growth books are a dime a dozen, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love gleams like gold. Any person in a relationship and every couples therapist on the planet needs Nancy Dreyfus’s thinking. We all have moments when words fail us and emotions take us into hurtful territory. The book is as brilliant and compassionate as Nancy herself in bringing the hurt back to love.”
— Susan Harrow, author of Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul